Fancy Acholonu, the ex- fiance of Nollywood actor, Alex Ekubo has finally revealed why they broke-up.
Fancy who has been in the news following her public apology to the actor, whose sexuality has become a subject of discussion, said Alex told her to go sleep with other men while they were dating.
The US-based model opened up on their failed engagement, during an interview with Popular blogger, Stella Dimoko Korkus.
Read the interview below:
Stella – Fancy I am Back to ask you more questions. In the last interview, you didn’t want to tell why but I will ask you again, why did you break up with Alexx?
FANCY – “Stella, I had several reasons why I broke up with him. Alexx is extremely narcissistic. The charming personality he shows to everyone was not who he was to me. Behind those smiles of our happy photos he was always lying, cheating, and gaslighting me. The day after we got engaged, it became worse. He then became more controlling, and verbally abusive. We argued so much and it was close to becoming physical, I was scared of his rage. I told my sister and documented for record sake in case anything happened. I can’t begin to give details of everything that went wrong for me to call it off. But one major red flag that made me devastated was that he told me he won’t sleep with me but I should go and sleep with other men. Imagine telling that to your fiancée that has kept herself for you for 5 years. At that moment I realized he didn’t truly love me. It started going down hill from there. Emotional abuse.
STELLA – Why did you make the Break up public? why not privately?
Fancy Acholonu – I didn’t plan to announce I was the one that ended the engagement, I was under a lot of stress. I wish I used different choice of words. It was not my intent to hurt him or spark up controversy. I did ask him to make an amicable statement with me but he ignored me. When he doesn’t get his way, he gives me the silent treatment. Our wedding plans was so public, he was the one that chose the wedding date and announced it publicly so I felt i had to say something because everyone was buying tickets and preparing for the wedding. If Alexx was mature enough to speak to me when things were falling apart instead of focusing on looking perfect on social media, my public statement would have been avoided. But I would have still ended things with him, but done it privately.
STELLA – Do you have proof of all these? like if you are challenged to bring forth evidence, do you have anything?
FANCY – I have proof of everything. That is why I’m speaking up with confidence. I wouldn’t speak without receipts, that would be careless. But I don’t think receipts are needed to be revealed unless there’s a defamation situation and defense is needed to be presented. I also know my family and friends are very upset with what Alex has put me through. They’re also disappointed in me and I understand: This is emotional abuse so they are sympathetic. they feel the need to share and encourage me to speak up and defend myself. I’m not used to talking too much and that’s why people think I’m talking a lot now. It’s because it’s the first time I’m finally using my voice, I’ve never been truly heard.
STELLA -Why did you even reconsider reconciling if he was so bad to you?
Fancy Acholonu – Stella, that’s a question many people want to know and I have asked myself that too. With therapy and guidance I now realize It was just a trauma bond, with all of the control he had over me, the silencing my voice, and withholding affection, it made me long for the pot of gold at the end of the tunnel with him but at the end of the day it was just a mirage, nothing was real. Everything was fake. We had history together and, I wasn’t strong enough to let go, he wanted me back badly too but this whole thing was toxic. I’m very grateful to God that I’m free and I can now be myself again.”