Nigerian nollywood actress Dayo Amusa has expressed a profound message about being independent and single.
The actress, who prefers to keep her romantic life out of the public eye, expressed that she is currently single because she believes in taking ownership of her own life and not placing blame on others or using them as a scapegoat for her own shortcomings. She emphasized that she does not let societal norms or religious beliefs dictate her identity.
She believes that being a woman does not make her inferior to men, and her skin color does not diminish her beauty. Dayo expressed that she has the power to decide who she associates with, what she believes in, and the principles she follows, based on her own judgment of what is right for her.
She acknowledged her ability to be self-reliant if necessary, but she doesn’t brag about it or belittle others who can’t be self-sufficient.
Dayo clarified that her independence does not imply that she doesn’t desire love, dislike going home alone, have a hatred towards men, or refuse to submit. She emphasized her wish to be cared for and spoiled by her partner, wanting doors to be opened for her, being treated to dinner, and feeling protected and supported.
“I am independent because I take responsibility for my life. I refuse to play the blame game on anyone or make other people scapegoats for my failures. I do not allow the culture or religion to define me. Just because I am a woman doesn’t mean I am less than a man. Just because my skin may be darker or lighter than someone else’s doesn’t make me any less beautiful.
I am empowered to choose my companions, belief system & standards, based on what I feel is right for me. I can stand on my own if need be, but I do not boast about it or make others feel small just because they can’t. Being independent doesn’t mean I do not need love. It doesn’t mean I like going home alone. It doesn’t mean I hate men or that I won’t submit. It doesn’t mean I will stop being feminine, sexy & ladylike. I still want to be cared for & pampered by my partner.
I desire to have doors opened & be treated to dinner. I still want to be protected & covered with assurance that everything is going to be okay.
YES, I Love my independence”.
Some months ago, Dayo Amusa expressed her views on marriage, highlighting the misconception that many people have about it being a solution to their loneliness. This misconception often leads to having unrealistic expectations.
Speaking about the importance of self-love, she stressed that not everyone is suited for marriage due to its significant level of commitment and the need to approach it with caution.
In the past two years, Dayo Amusa shared the reasons behind her decision to remain in a harmful relationship that nearly destroyed her. She explained that it was difficult to walk away because she had become accustomed to being someone who solves problems, but in the end, she managed to rescue herself.
She revealed that she consistently drew in men who were emotionally unavailable, narcissistic, drug-dependent, sociopathic, and others alike. However, she came to the realization that the reason behind this pattern was her belief that she could rescue them.
