Popular Nollywood actress and media personality, Toke Makinwa has revealed that a lot of women stays in unhealthy marriages just because of their children.
The model and influencer noted that she would have stayed back in her marriage with her ex-husband, Maje Ayida if they had a child together.
Recall that Toke Makinwa got married to fitness entrepreneur, Ayida in 2014, however, the marriage crashed in 2017 after discovering that he impregnated his ex-girlfriend.
Speaking in the latest episode of her podcast, with actress Iyabo Ojo, the thespian said she would have become one of the women who stayed in unhealthy marriages for their kids.
According to her, “Sometimes I feel a lot of women stay in unhealthy marriages for the children. For the longest, you hear so many women say things like, ‘the marriage is done but I only stay for my kids.
“And I’m going to be honest here, if I have had a kid while I was married, I may have been one of those women. Because I also had the trauma of losing both parents at the age of 8. I was adopted, I have a great life which I’m thankful for but there were times that I wondered what life could have possibly been like if that didn’t happened.
“So, for the sake of my children, I may have had to compromise just because I wanted them to have mum and dad. I may have been one of these women. So, I’m not even judging anyone right here.”
In her reaction, her guest Iyabo Ojo said she left her marriage with her children instead of staying back with them because “I was young at the time. If I was at this age, a lot of decisions I took, I probably would not had taken. Because now I’m more wiser and have a better understanding of life.
“Now, I am more exposed and enlightened. But then I was coming from a place where I was already damaged as a child. You know when you come from a very wealthy home but you’ve to still raise yourself? Things like that.
“I didn’t grow up knowing my mum and dad. I was living with my dad, my grandmother, and his brothers. My grandmother was my mum to me. My dad was not like a dad; he was like a brother and friend. He was like an uncle because he enjoyed life too much and really didn’t have time to pay attention to me.
Growing up in that kind of situation where I didn’t even know what they called ‘mummy’, I didn’t know I had a mother; I only knew my mum when I was about seven. My parents were never married; they just had my brother and me together” (sic).
